Saturday, September 16, 2017

The Yin and Yang of Presence

Any problem you encounter can either feed your old, destructive patterns or provide an opportunity for major growth. A primary goal of change is "waking up" to habitual patterns. 

Borrowing from Stephen Gilligan (Summer 1999 Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter, page 8), my presence as a coach requires both yin (receptive) and yang (active) qualities:
In the yin mode, providing sanctuary, listening deeply, receiving with curiosity and open heart, and bearing witness with kindness and understanding.
In the yang mode being relentlessly committed to you, attending fiercely, guiding, setting boundaries, and challenging your self-limitations.
My work with clients draws primarily on the yin aspect. This is backed up by the fierce attentiveness of yang, but not overpowered by a belief that I must control your change process.

Together, we follow where curiosity leads, trusting you'll find your internal resources in the space my presence provides.

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